One night after the kids were in bed, I asked Ron to please talk with me because of the fear/anxiety that had gripped me as of late. He listened, encouraged me with truth, and prayed with/over me. That night I slept. My husband had battled for me spiritually, emotionally and mentally. So, a week later, the kids and I gave him an early Fathers Day gift: a sword. It has been in our bedroom since then. Each time I've seen it, the sword has reminded me that we are at war: with the flesh, the world, and evil.
A good friend/mentor of mine reminded me the other day that it is beautiful when couples fight for one another. But we must be careful not to draw our swords against one another. Why is it so easy to forget sometimes in marriage that we are on the same side? Allies, ONE flesh... Ron is not my adversary. I should never speak to him (or think about him) as his enemy or his accuser.
Sadly, over the last week, it seems like we've jabbed at one another often. Lord, please give us clarity of vision... so that we draw our swords only to fight for & with (never against) one another.
Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occassions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints. Eph 6:10-18
Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To him be the power for ever and ever. Amen. I Peter 5:8-11
And there was a war in heaven. Michael and his angels fought against the dragon, and the dragon and his angels fought back. But he was not strong enough, and they lost their place in heaven. The great dragon was hurled down - that ancient serpent called the devil, or Satan, who leads the whole world astray. He was hurled to the earth, and his angels with him. Then I heard a loud voice in heaven say: 'Now have come the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God, and the authority of his Christ. For the accuser of our brothers, who accuses them before our God day and night, he has been hurled down.' Rev 12:7-10
Husbands [wives], love your wives [husbands], just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church - for we are members of his body. 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' This is a profound mystery - but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of your also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Eph 5:25-33
This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for one another. I John 3:16